Elder Richard G. Scott : "when you face adversity, you can be led to ask many questions. Some serve a useful purpose; others do not. To ask, Why does this have to happen to me? Why do I have to suffer this,now? What have I don't to cause this? will lead you into blind alleys. It really does no good to ask questions that reflect opposition to the will of God. Rather ask, What am I to do? What am I to learn from this experience? What am I to change? ( http://www.lds.org/ensign/1995/11/trust-in-the-lord?lang=eng )
Also with this... Elder Joseph B. Wirthlin "Often those who struggle with adversity ask the question Why dis this happen to me? They spend sleepless nights wondering why they feel so lonely, sick, discouraged, oppressed, or brokenhearted. The question, Why me? can be a difficult one to answer and often leads to frustration and despair. There is a better question to ask ourselves. That question is What could I learn from this experience. ( http://www.lds.org/ensign/2004/11/press-on?lang=eng )
The difference in questions is small. Yet their meaning is so different. I cannot tell you how many times I have asked the first sets of questions. So many times. Over and over. I have prayed, I have said them nicely in my prayers. I have screamed and hollered them in my prayers. My attitude wasn't right. Sometime recently I have changed, with the encouragement of my husband I have started asking the latter questions. Thing are so different. Some of our current situations are no different, but the feelings in dealing with them are. There is a calmness. We have now asked for direction and are patiently waiting. We have some answers, but mostly we have comfort. For right now the comfort will suffice, I know the answers will come because I am finally asking the right questions. I have my perspective right and we are doing all we can. WE are on the right path.